Tuesday, December 25, 2012

"Offensive Name Calling... The Forbidden"


The beginning of Surah Hujurat talks about the Prophet's (S.A.W.) Rights and the etiquette to be observed when dealing with him. Ayats thereafter, in this surah mentions the Mutual Rights and Good manners as it relates to mankind and the general body of Muslims to be observed among themselves... These verses were for the collective reformation of society.
The current verse 11, "Prohibits 3 Social Evils:" 
(1) Ridiculing One Another
(2) Finding Fault With One  Another
(3) Reviling One Another with Nicknames.

According to Qurtubi, (Famous Classical Scholar of 671 H.), Mocking does not only mean with the tongue, but also means making pointed references to him, laughing at his words, his works, his appearance, his dress,  or calling peoples attention to some of his defects, so that they may laugh at him. Mocking includes all of this. By the clear text of Qur'an, making fun of someone or ridiculing him is absolutely forbidden.

Reference: 
*Holy Qur'an 49:11 
*Ma'ariful Qur'an ~A comprehensive commentary on the Holy Qur'an: Vol: 8 pg: 131-2~ 

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Surah 33 Al-Ahzab :70-71 -Guarding The Speech-


يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَقُولُوا قَوْلا ًسَدِيدا
يُصْلِحْ لَكُمْ أَعْمَالَكُمْ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ  ۗ  وَمَن
يُطِعِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَه ُُ فَقَدْ فَازَ فَوْزاً 
عَظِيما
Yā 'Ayyuhā Al-Ladhīna 'Āmanū Attaqū Al-LahaWa Qūlū Qawlāan Sadīdāan
Yuşliĥ Lakum 'A`mālakum Wa Yaghfir LakumDhunūbakum  ۗ  Wa Man Yuţi`i Al-Laha Wa Rasūlahu Faqad Fāza Fawzāan `Ažīmāan

O ye, who believe! Fear your Lord, and (always) say a word directed to the right. That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: he that obeys Allah and His Apostle has already attained the highest Achievements." ~Surah Ahzab (33:70-71)

According to Ibn Kathir
The word 'sadid' means (what is straight forward). It can also be interpreted as "what is the truth," "straight," or "correct." He also mentions that "The Holy Qur'an" has chosen the word 'sadid' and not "Sadiq or mustaqim" because the word 'sadid' holds all of the attributes of ideal speech within itself.
"Qawlaa Sadidaan" is to say of what is truth having no trace of falsity or error. Also when saying things that are directed to right conduct or behaviors. The righteous speech/guidance should not be jokingly, harshly, or in a fun manner, but should be spoken softly.

Ref: Holy Qur'an (Yusuf Ali Version) and
(Tafsir)Ma'ariful Qur'an Vol:7

Sunday, November 18, 2012

"You Can't Hide What Is In Your Heart."



Humans hide from many things, We hide from our bosses, teachers, family members, we even hide from our true selves when we deny certain facts about who we really are and/or reinventing ourselves.

The Problem with denial and reinventing ones self
When one is in Denial about who they are, It's like that scenario of the elephant is in the room but everyone acts as if it's not there. Others can see you for who you are because what is inside of you (your heart), most times will expose you long before you realize it. Many times that exposure comes in the form of your Words, Word Usage, Actions, Facial Expressions, and Body Language.

 Reinventing  ones self  may only work if you have the tools of Honesty, Earnestness, and Righteous Effort. If you are reinventing yourself be mindful of the possibilities of building a  fictitious character that may help you to cope momentarily, but may not be good for you long term.

We simply can not "Mask" who we truly are. However, we can gain knowledge to help us improve our way of life and thinking. These types of improvements takes practice and patience, so be kind and patient with yourself, Insh'Allah... We are all a work on progress. Mash'Allah.

The Criterion
Allah S.W.T. has given the World a criterion within the Qur'an and in the lives all of His Messengers (Peace Be Upon Them All). He has sent this criterion time and time again since the beginning of time. If we study and implement these principles, our lives will not only change for the better, but it will leave very little room for being diverted away from the truth or righteousness.

Our hearts, minds, and actions are completely exposed to Allah (S.W.T.), Therefore; Maybe with knowing this, we will be more inclined to change what is unfavorable inside of us and Allahu'Alim.





Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Aamil Shakur ~My beloved Step-Dad~


My Step dad, Aamil Shakur (Inna Allahi wa Inna Alayhi Raji'un.)
May Allah S.W.T. be pleased with his deeds and Give him Jannahtul Firdous. Ameen.
My Stepfather was truly a lovely man. He came into my life, when I was 23 yrs old and would passed away from cancer 10 years later.
 October 28, 2012 will make 7 years that I still go on missing and praying for him just as if it he was here yesterday.
 I am not grieving, nor am I sad.
 I realize that Allah (S.W.T.) gave us a time, in which tremendous growth took place.
He was there to sit with me on My Wedding Day.
He was there for my marriage and it's beginner's trials.
He fed us physically with food and spiritually with love. 
He was there to be a beautiful grand dad figure to five of my seven children (two, he never got to meet.)
He was a beautiful father-in-law to my husband.
He was there to give me support and encouragement in my goals.
He was there to give us all real talk when needed and remembrance of Allah (S.W.T.)
I learned what the character of a real man looks like,
 I learned his work and business ethics and how to appreciate the people Allah (S.W.T.) send your way.
I saw his unwavering love for Allah (S.W.A.) in the face of his short term illness,
 that he knew would lead to his death, Allahu'Alim.
 I was blessed to be by his side during his last days on earth. 
Allah (S.W.T.) allowed me to amass many blessings at this time. 
With all of his independence, my step dad knew that I wanted to do things for him; therefore, he allowed me. I fed him,
 we recited Qur'an together,
 He allowed me to read Surah Yasin every morning after Fajr to him,
 and when I couldn't, he would read to me.
 Although he thought the rose oil, I bought him smelled too girly,
he wore it in his salt and peppered beard anyway.
 Alhamdulillah, At the time I was learning Surah Al-A'la.
 He would help me, Mash'Allah.
 He didn't fail at reminding me of Surah Al Mulk. (in which he was learning.) lol! 
When He became too weak and sick.
I recited what I knew and waited for him to wake up. 
Whenever, he awakened, 
He would look to his right and then to his left.
(This became very common.)
He once was humming in his sleep. (He was not inclined to music)
So, I put my ear really close to try and hear. 
It was beautiful, no harmony I had ever heard)  
Just at that time he woke up and I asked him what was that he was humming.
He just smiled and went back to sleep. (I Still don't know, he never told me. lol)
My stepfather passed away during the last 10 days of Ramadan,
 Early Friday morning around 4 a.m., 
after a friend made Umrah for him, 
 His Shahadah finger was lifted. 
It stayed that way until the Imam came and prepared him. 
His doctor came in, looked over at him, and thought He looked Amazing!
His skin was really beautiful,
His beard was glistening,
His head was freshly shaved a couple of days prior to his death, 
No dramatic weight loss, 
As the men from the morgue of the hospital, came to wash him and transport him.
I reminded them to be conscious that he was a good man and a servant of God (Highly Glorified is He.)
They said yes ma'am. We will take care of him, don't worry.
I stood outside of the curtain while they made preparation. 
(they really were careful. I didn't hear a sound.)
 I  walk with those who was transporting him to the outside doors of the hospitals morgue.
This would be the furthest I was allowed.
 I made my last du'a with him and gave him the greetings as I always would.
"As-Salaamu-Alakium war Rahmatu'Allah." 
leaving ("Wa Barakatu' "for him to say, As a greeting better than that which I have given Him.)
(-and he always would, in this life.-)
Allahu'Alim.

 I truly believe that Allah (S.W.T.) knows that My step-dad can never be replaced.
However,

Allah (S.W.T) has blessed me with a beautiful family of men in my life. I have a wonderful Husband of 16 yrs, Teenage Sons and younger sons, Wonderful Brothers and Nephew's, a Wonderful Uncle, and a Wonderful Father-In-Law. All are truly respectful, helpful, giving, kind and very gentle when dealing with the women in our family. I realize, that over time Allah (S.W.T.) has increased my blessing for that one Huge lost.
Today is just One of those days that I miss him Alot. 
(Inna Allahi wa inna Alayhi Raji'un.)

(Music video)
Written by: KC Goff and Mr.Ameen (My husband)
Singer : Mr. Ameen
(Lyrics were inspired while he was sick.)




Monday, October 15, 2012

"A Prayer For The Believer, In The Face of Opposition"


Abraham (P.B.U.H.) prayed for truth, wisdom, and righteousness in the face of disbelief and opposition... And here is His Beautiful prayer to His Lord (Highly Glorified is He.)

"...It is He who has created me, and so it is He who guides me; It is He who give food and drink, and whenever I am sick it is He who Heals me; and it is He who makes me die and then bring me to life. And upon Him, I put my hope that He would forgive my sins on the Day of Judgement. 



"O my Lord! bestow wisdom on me and join me with the righteous;
"Grant me Honorable mention on the tongue of truth among the latest (generations);
"Make me one of the inheritors of the Garden of Bliss;
"Forgive my father, for that he is among those astray;
"And let me not be in disgrace on the day when (men) will be raised up-
"The day whereon neither wealth nor sons will avail,
"But on he (will prosper) that brings to Allah a sound heart;
"To the Righteous, the garden will be brought near...
 Surah Al Shu'ara (The Poets) 26:78-90

When faced with opposition and the taunts of disbelievers, Remember Abraham (P.B.U.H.)...The Friend of Allah (SWT)

Friday, October 12, 2012

Your Character... A Valuable Asset for the Soul."

If you remove Wealth, Beauty, Your Faculties, and Your following of Man, What do you have Left?

"YOUR CHARACTER."

Your character is one of the most valuable assets you have on earth and it will follow you in the hereafter via your actions. Therefore, we should never allow someone to defame, slander, or tarnish our characters by means of jealousy, envy, or hate. Muslims are taught to be upstanding, righteous, trust worthy and truthful, fisabil'Allah (For the sake of Allah (SWT). As we work on our characters we are remembering Allah SWT and His Mercy as well as His wrath.  Having an upstanding character is a work in progress for us all, simply because we as humans are flawed. We sin from time to time and man can be hasty, creating wrong choices and unfortunate decisions. But, never should we give up hope for a beautiful character. Nor should we lay down and allow anyone to ruin our credibility out of sheer arrogance and/or ignorance. We must stand for what is right and forbid what is wrong. Even if it's against ourselves, loved ones, or foes. But when we feel we have tried and have done all we can to protect our characters and the characters of our fellow believers, we have what Yaqub (PBUH) told his sons after they took Yusuf (PBUH) away from him, As well as what Aisha (RAA) shared upon finding out of the slanders, rumors, and defamation of her character that was going about... 
***‘Fa sabroon jameel wallahul musta’anu ala matasifoon .*** ("With good patience, Allah is the one who aids me in that which you are accusing me.. .")

The Slander Of Aisha (RAA) is a very good Example: Please read if you don't recall the seriousness.---> http://www.ahmadjibril.com/students/seerahIfk.html

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

"Domestic Violence and The Islamic Perspective"

We as Muslims should not shy away from the subject of Domestic Violence nor should we cover this societal  ill up. I have shared the Islamic perspective on the abuse of women with many. As we know there are many types of abuse one can face, There is Physical, Mental/ Psychological, Spiritual, financial, and verbal. However, Islam does not condone any of it. 


Many have asked about Surah 4 An Nisa: 34th Iyat/verse 


سُوۡرَةُ النِّسَاء
ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٲمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعۡضَهُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٍ۬ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُواْ مِنۡ أَمۡوَٲلِهِمۡ‌ۚ فَٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتُ قَـٰنِتَـٰتٌ حَـٰفِظَـٰتٌ۬ لِّلۡغَيۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُ‌ۚ وَٱلَّـٰتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَٱهۡجُرُوهُنَّ فِى ٱلۡمَضَاجِعِ وَٱضۡرِبُوهُنَّ‌ۖ فَإِنۡ أَطَعۡنَڪُمۡ فَلَا تَبۡغُواْ عَلَيۡہِنَّ سَبِيلاً‌ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّ۬ا ڪَبِيرً۬ا (٣٤)


Men are guardians over women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).— translated by Abdullah Yusuf Ali

The biggest controversy of this verse is the last part.----> ((And last) beat them (lightly))<--- The controversy comes in with most people not having a sound understanding of this Iyat. We must look at our Examples in the Prophets (Peace Be Upon Them All). 

*Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) never hit his wives, however there were times he refused their beds, due to displeasing conduct.

*Prophet Job (Peace Be Upon Him), In the time of a great trial of illness, His wifes' conduct was displeasing as well . He made an oath in saying that when he is well, he will hit her and he sent her away. But, when he became well he did not want to hit her, nor did he wish to break an oath that he had outwardly spoken, So Allah (SWT) revealed this to him in Surah 38:Sad Iyat/ verse 44 as to make it easy for him.


سُوۡرَةُ صٓ
وَخُذۡ بِيَدِكَ ضِغۡثً۬ا فَٱضۡرِب بِّهِۦ وَلَا تَحۡنَثۡ‌ۗ إِنَّا وَجَدۡنَـٰهُ صَابِرً۬ا‌ۚ نِّعۡمَ ٱلۡعَبۡدُ‌ۖ إِنَّهُ ۥۤ أَوَّابٌ۬ (٤٤)


"And take in thy hand a little grass and strike therewith: and break not (thy oath.) Truly we found him full of patience and constancy: How excellent in our service, Ever did he turn (to Us.)

All parties should fear their Lord. Couples should not be disloyal, false, demeaning, or cruel to their spouses in any way. We should reverence Our Lord (Allah SWT) enough to know that we all error, but we all are traveling this path in search of Righteousness. To Him we all belong and to Him shall we all return. Ameen


Domestic Violence Has No Place In Islam or In Our Society. Know Your Rights, Remember Your Lord, and Your Meeting Day with Him.

Saturday, September 29, 2012

*NATIONS AND TRIBES...We are all the sons and daughters of Adam (Peace Be Upon Him)*

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ
Arabic: Surah Al Hujurat 49: 13

Ya ayyuha alnnasu inna khalaqnakum min thakarin waontha wajaAAalnakum shuAAooban waqaba-ila litaAAarafoo inna akramakum AAinda Allahi atqakum inna Allaha AAaleemun khabeerun
Transliteration


O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male 
and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things). ~Surah Al-Hujurat 49:13 (Yusuf Ali Translation)~
English Meaning


....All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.

Taken From Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) "Last Sermon"









































 *We Can Not Be True Followers Of The Deen of Islam (Religion of Islam), If We are Racist/ prejudice against our brothers and sisters skin color, tribe, gender, social class, or wealth status.*

"Inna Allahi wa inna Alayhi raji'un" (From Allah SWA (God) we came, and To HIM shall we return.)